Learning to pray - Romans 8:26

June 9, 2019



Eternal Spirit of the living Christ,
I know not how to ask or what to say;
I only know my need as deep as life,
And only you can teach me how to pray.

As a pastor, I have received little help in how to pray.
             
In seminary, we talked about prayer.  We learned the teaching of Jesus – that prayer was a good thing, that God wants to hear our prayers, and that God listens when we do pray.  We discussed the theology of prayer and noted different ways Christian churches pray. 

But, except for times of public worship, we didn’t actually pray all that much.  The one exception for me was that, in my job description as Director of Youth Ministry and Christian Education at St. Mark’s Episcopal Church in Upland, California, it was stipulated that up to two of my sixteen hours each week could be dedicated to prayer.  But that was it.
             
To be honest, though, I don’t know that I would have engaged much in the practice of prayer, even if there had been more opportunities.  Maybe I still had too many questions about the efficacy of prayer or even of the right way to pray.  It was probably more, though, that my heart wasn’t ready for prayer.
             
Even after I was ordained, I couldn’t quite pull off the kind of prayer life that I thought a pastor was supposed to have – daily verbal prayer (especially with one’s spouse!), as well as Bible reading.  Of course, I regularly prayed with people in a variety of settings – in the hospital and at the funeral home, at meetings and in worship.  But I couldn’t seem to sustain any kind of personal practice for more than a few days. 
             
Then, after almost 15 years of serving as a pastor, I decided I might try meditation.  I read in Morton Kelsey’s book, The Other Side of Silence, that he had taken up the practice in order to begin experiencing the things that, as an Episcopal priest, he had been preaching about for so many years.
             
I tried all kinds of meditation – counting breaths, guided meditation, centering prayer, chanting, icons, mindfulness and others.  Given the way my personality is, I would get bored with one kind after two or three months and I would try something else.
             
Even so, I think I was learning something, in spite of myself – I was learning the limits of my own efforts at prayer.  I wasn’t very good at it, but I didn’t give up.  I persisted, trying to get better at it, without understanding that one of the purposes of prayer and meditation is to help us realize that we’re not very good at it.
             
Prayer is not about being able to say the right words.  It’s about being quiet when the right words don’t come, or even when there are no “right words.”  It’s about being quiet, so that we can be open to what the Spirit is saying and doing in us.
             
As Paul says, “Likewise the Spirit helps us in our weakness when we do not know how to pray as we ought.”
             
So, I persisted because, even though I did not know the right words, I knew that I had a deep need.  And that desire is what kept me going.

Eternal Spirit of the Living Christ,
I know not how to ask or what to say;
I only know my need as deep as life,
And only you can teach me how to pray.

Come, pray in me the prayer I need this day;
Help me to see your purpose and your will,
Where I have failed, what I have done amiss;
Held in forgiving love, let me be still.

Coming to the end of our words in prayer provides more space for the Holy Spirit to pray for us – to pray in us the prayer we need this day.  That may even be a good prayer in itself – Lord, I do not know what to pray today.  So, pray in me the prayer that I need. 

This prayer is a prayer of surrender. It is a prayer to let go of our agenda for today.  It is a prayer of openness to God’s purpose and will.  Just as Jesus prayed, “Not my will, but yours, be done,” so we can pray, “Not my prayer, but yours in me.” 

Help me to see your purpose and your will.

I think one of the most surprising verses in the New Testament is in John 5.  Although we read most of the Gospel of John in the course of our three-year lectionary, we do not read this:

Jesus said to them, “Very truly I tell you, the Son can do nothing on his own, but only what he sees the Father doing.” (5:19)

Jesus is not operating on his own.  He is not making it up as he goes along.  The Father has not said to the Son, “Oh, you figure it out. Just do whatever you think is best.”  No.  What Jesus does is to look around and see what the Father is doing and then joins the Father in that work.

If this is true for Jesus, how much more is it true for us!  Our job is not to come up with a mission statement or a strategic plan.  It is simply to look around, to see what God is doing, and then to join God in whatever God is already doing.

So that we are less likely to fool ourselves, we also confess – where I have failed, what I have done amiss.  We acknowledge that we don’t always see and do what God is doing.  We do not always seek God’s will above our own.  So, we confess fully, but we also rest fully in God’s love. 

In this state – being wrapped in the arms of God – there is nothing to do.  That doesn’t mean there is nothing happening, though.  For in this resting, our eyes are open to what God is doing and our ears are open to what the Spirit is saying in us.

Come, pray in me the prayer I need this day;
Help me to see your purpose and your will.
Where I have failed, what I have done amiss;
Held in forgiving love, let me be still.

Come with the vision and the strength I need
To serve my God and all humanity;
Fulfillment of my life in love outpoured:
My life in you, O Christ, your love in me.

In our weakness, we ask the Spirit to come with strength and with seeing so that we might serve – serve God and all humanity.  This is the fulfillment of our lives – to pour out our lives in love.
             
This is what our life might look like on the outside – lives devoted to service. On the inside, it is this: My life in you, O Christ, your love in me.
             
When we fall in love, part of us goes with that other person, when we are apart.  We long for them and can’t wait to see them again.  And part of them is also in us.  There is an inner connection we have with that person.  It’s not just when we fall in love, although it may be more apparent then because the feelings are more intense.  It is also when we live together over many years – in love and out of love, in all the ups and downs of married life, day after day after day – even when nothing seems to be happening. 
             
So also with God – when we are in love with God, there is a deep connection, a union between our own spirit and the Spirit of God, the eternal Spirit of the living Christ.  Our true life is in God, and God’s love is in us – pouring out, fulfilling our lives.
             
As Paul says in Galatians 2, “I have been crucified with Christ; and it is no longer I who live, but it is Christ who lives in me. And the life I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me.” 

Now you may not be ready to go there.  It may all sound a bit too mystical for you. You are just a garden variety Lutheran after all.  But remember what Luther says about the work of the Holy Spirit, in his explanation to the Third Article of the Apostles’ Creed:
             
I believe that I cannot by my own understanding or effort, believe in Jesus Christ my Lord or come to him. But the Holy Spirit has called me through the gospel, enlightened me with his gifts and sanctified and kept me in true faith…

So, likewise, this hymn begins with the acknowledgement that we can’t do it ourselves, that we do not know how to pray as we ought, that we need the Spirit of God working within us.  All we need is a simple trust in God and the desire to live out the love of God in Christ.

Come with the vision and the strength I need,
To serve my God and all humanity;
Fulfillment of my life in love outpoured
My life in you, O Christ, your love in me.
Amen.

(ELW, #402)

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